So, the more I listen to Abraham’s teaching, the more I am understanding we are here FOR the contrast. We aren’t here to lead perfect contrast free lives. I know, for me, I have spent most of my life fighting the contrast and then spending tons of time, after the contrast, regurgitating what had happened. In my meditation today, I had a cool (and funny to me) vision of how it should be for a happy life.
So, I am aiming to ride contrast like this instead.
And then react this way once the contrast has passed.
Me heading toward all the good stuff the contrast put into my vortex.
I was fortunate to find an email from Byron Katie in my spam mailbox this morning. Her take on how to feel better with what is currently going on with our country is very refreshing. If you are angry about what our government is doing right now, you might find this hard to swallow. Ultimately, I believe that what she is saying will help ME find more peace no matter what is going on. Maybe it will help you too.
I Am Angry and Disgusted with a Large Segment of Our Population for Supporting the Current Administration
A man at the 6 September LIVE—At Home with Byron Katie event reads his stressful thought to Byron Katie and the audience. “I am angry and disgusted with those who support the current administration.” This thought usually occurs to him when he’s reading an article or some comments on Facebook. Katie brings him back to the moment when he is reading. “How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought, and you’re reading an Op-Ed?”
“Very tight in the throat and chest,” says the man.
“I want you to know where you feel it,” Katie says, “so that the physical reaction can remind you to look to what’s going on in your mind. What images of the future do you see when you’re believing this thought?”
“Environmental devastation, people with no access to education or doctors, people being silenced for having alternative beliefs, and basic 1984 fear,” says the man.
“The 1984 image is of the past in your mind,” Katie says. “I want you to know why people often say, ‘Be here now.’ You’re reading, and you see what is not happening now; it’s a case of imagination witnessed in your mind’s eye. And you see future fearful images. You become upset yourself as you witness false past and future as a movie in your head. Who would you be without those thoughts, images of past/future?”
“I’d be Forest Gump,” says the man. “I’d be happy. I’d be a much more sane and calm person.”
“So is it really those of us who are supporting the current administration who upset you, or are you just sitting in an internal movie upsetting yourself?”
“I’m absolutely just sitting there upsetting myself,” says the man, laughing.
“And then others take the blame.”
“I guess I’m kind of trying to rule the world.”
“I’d drop the ‘kind of,'” Katie says. (Audience laughter.) “Now, how would you turn your thought around?”
“I’m disgusted with myself for assuming all of these things about people I don’t know anything about.”
“The way you have identified yourself, you’re up here, and we’re way down here,” says Katie. “We seem to be who you believe us to be.
“Another turnaround,” the man says. “Thank you for supporting something I don’t believe in so that I can learn a different way of looking at it.”
“A clear mind is a beautiful mind,” says Katie. “Can you find another turnaround?”
“I’m not disgusted with anybody, because that’s insane,” says the man.
“I love your open mind,” Katie says. “That tight feeling in your chest will always let you know when your mind is closed.”
When the man gets to statements two to six on his Worksheet, he is astonished that he now feels embarrassed to read them.
“What we are thinking and believing is the cause of all suffering. No administration has the power to cause you stress or ultimately take your freedom from you.” —Byron Katie
If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. As soon as you honor the present moment, unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.
Peace, to me, means a place where I can feel the calm a midst the raging seas. The place within me that is filled with love without a drop of worry about anything or for anyone. A feeling that everything is exactly as it should be and that everything will be okay, even if I can’t see how that will happen.
I’ve been dabbling, inconsistently, with various ways to find my peace over several years. For me, it takes a lot of intentional practice to be in a steady state of peace. Once I reach a comfortable level of peace, I relax my practice and don’t notice the slow slide back down to dis-ease until it feels dramatically bad.
As I am getting older, my patience with this process is waning dramatically. I want peace in my life NOW and want it to stay. The one thing I have learned so far, on this journey, is that my peace has to come from within me. I can’t want outside circumstances to conform to my definition of what peace is. Well, I can want that, but trying to change what or how anyone else is, is a recipe for failure on my peace front. I need to allow my peace, no matter what is going on around me. It can be done. I’ve done it before. And I will do it again.
Meditation, exercise, eft and being outside in nature help me into to a peaceful place. I just need to get more into a habit of doing these things. The month of December, I am really going to make the effort with the meditation and the exercise. I tap (EFT) when I remember and it does make a pretty immediate difference in my level of agitation. I may try nature too, depending on how nice winter is here this year. Me and cold don’t get along very well. 🙂
This is all a journey. I know that it may take a while to cultivate a consistent peaceful mentality. I also know that life will challenge me on a regular basis. It is my ability to return to my peaceful loving understanding of the bigger picture that I am eagerly looking forward to.