Watch Your Mouth (and Thoughts)! – How What You Say and Think Influences Your Experience

How often do you really notice what you are thinking and saying in reference your ability to change how your life is going? My guess is “Not very often”.

Your words and thoughts are very powerful influencers of your vibration. Your vibration attracts experiences into your life. If you are thinking negative thoughts, then you are going to attract things into your life that are less than pleasing to you. Focusing heavily on these negative thoughts will bring unwanted situations into your experience. Your thoughts are magnetic. Law of Attraction complies each and every time. Like attracts like. Abraham says that the thoughts you verbalize have more power than the ones you are just thinking, but they are all have the potential attract unwanted into your experience.

So, you say, what exactly qualifies as an upstream thought?

Phrases like:

  • “I can’t do …”
  • “I’m not worthy …”
  • “I don’t have …”
  • “You need to stop …”
  • “I’ll never …”
  • “This (insert negative experience of choice) always happens to me”

Any thought or phrase that makes you feel less worthy, makes you feel more disempowered, or requires anyone to change their behavior to make you feel better qualifies as an upstream thought.

Get into alignment with what you desire in your existence by thinking and saying things that make you feel good. Simple as that. Okay, maybe not so simple for those, who think on autopilot, but it is doable. For the most part, thoughts that contain these words and others that feel the same are the ones that you should be aware of.

Upstream Words: can’t, won’t, don’t, never, no, stop, hate

So, how do you move your thoughts in a more “downstream”, go with the flow, direction? Just make an effort to point downstream and make a few little changes in how you interact with those in your life.

This quote from Abraham gives you a pretty good starting point:

My new orientation is to praise, not criticize
My new orientation is to appreciate, not blame.
My new orientation is to love me, not doubt me.
My new orientation is to look for the benefit in you.
My new orientation is to look where ever I am for positive aspects.

My new orientation is today, no matter where I am, no matter what I am doing, and no matter who I am doing it with, to look for that which I am wanting to see. And I have come into alignment, you’ll tell your friend, with who I am and I gotta tell you, it’s sweet. It feels good.

Abraham-Hicks CD 10/14/06 Washington DC

Have fun with it all 🙂 Life is supposed to be fun and fulfilling. Joy is your destiny and in that Joy, all that you desire will manifest.

New Year Resolutions – Setting Yourself Up For Success

‘Tis the night for lofty goals and well meant resolutions for a better life. Unfortunately, most people are ill equipt to make these resolutions a reality. Just saying that you will do something, doesn’t make it so. We humans are creatures of well entrenched habits that we easily fall back on without a second thought. We don’t intentionally do it, but unless we have a well thought out, attainable path of attack, we get lost and fall back into the “comfort” of what we do know how to do, even if that habit of behavior isn’t in our best interest.

You can greatly increase your chances of success if you keep the following steps in mind when making your new year resolution.

Pick One Goal

Pick one resolution that you want to accomplish and focus all your effort on making it happen. When you choose too many things, multi-tasking your goals, will create a situation were none will get done in a very effective way. Focus your energy on the steps that will lead you down the path to success. Most people pick the hardest things that need to be changed. Doing that with one goal is hard enough. Add more than one goal and it is a recipe for failure across the board.

Be Specific About Your Goal

  • Losing 20 lbs in three months versus losing weight.
  • Go to the gym 3 times a week versus join a gym.

Specific goals will allow you to figure out what you need to do, on a step by step basis in order to accomplish that goal. It will also allow you to gauge the small success you are having along the way.

Have a Plan

What steps are you going to take in order to make your goal a reality? Your resolution will not miraculously happen just because you say you want it to. You are going to have to change your well entrenched ways to make this change and it will be next to impossible to succeed if you can’t visualize how you are going to from where you are to where you want to be.

Make Mini Goals

Most likely, your resolution will be for something that is a far from where you currently are. Making mini goals will help you realize the successes you are having on a day to day basis. The process of getting to your final destinaiton is a journey of rebuilding your beliefs and behaviors about the issue. If you can see that you are making progress, even in small steps, helps you remain motivated and help you reach your final goal.

Accountability, Accountability, Accountability

If left to your own devices, chances are you will readily fall back into your well trodden pathways. Share your goal with people and ask for their support. If you don’t have people around you that will support you, the internet has an amazing supply of websites that provide community interaction where you can get your day to day encouragement, whether you are trying to lose weight, get out of debt, or stop smoking.

Be Kind To Yourself

This doesn’t mean to be lackadaisical about the steps you know need to be done to get to your end result. This means to understand that you will have setbacks. This quote from Psychology Today really paints a picture about what you are up against when you are trying to change long term behaviors.

Making resolutions work is essentially changing behaviors and in order to do that, you have to change your thinking and “rewire” your brain. Brain scientists such as Antonio Damasio and Joseph LeDoux and psychotherapist Stephen Hayes have discovered, through the use of MRIs, that habitual behavior is created by thinking patterns that create neural pathways and memories, which become the default basis for your behavior when you’re faced with a choice or decision. Trying to change that default thinking by “not trying to do it,” in effect just strengthens it. Change requires creating new neural pathways from new thinking.

Psychology Today – Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

You will be doing a lot of rewiring as you journey from where you currently are to where you want to be. You have built up a lot of beliefs about your capabilities and your worthiness over your life time. You are able and you are worthy. Don’t let that old tired voice in your head convince you that you are a failure when you have a setback. See it for what it is – a temporary sidetrack. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and give yourself a pat on the back as you get back on track. Each moment is a new start for you. Don’t allow your setbacks cloud your ability to move forward. You will get there if you keep moving forward. Little steps forward are still movement towards where you want to be.

Wonderful Present – All About Soul

In my other blog, which I have long since closed down due to my frequent negative focus, I had very frequently lamented how hard it was to keep my alignment amidst the contrast of my day to day life. To give a very short synopsis of the contrast, Hubby has chronic severe depression which appeared in full force about 5 years ago.

Life is providing me many opportunities to practice where I am choosing to focus and, I must say, I am doing pretty damn good the vast majority of the time. Yes, there are times when I get out of my feel good place, but I recognize that is not where I want to be, and do something about it.

Hubby always has music playing in his head. I don’t understand it, but if I ask him what’s playing, he always has an answer. Typically is something topical to the time of year, something he has recently heard, or something related to a memory.

Yesterday, he was fervently searching for something on his computer and then started playing a song, which he made a point of saying was just for me. Out of the blue. Billy Joel usually isn’t part of his typical listening so I was a bit surprised as it wasn’t somethig that either of us had been listening to.

What a wonderful gift it was for me. Sometimes, I wonder if I make a difference. I feel like I can’t make a difference in his suffering, at all. The words of this song told me that how I focus does make a difference to him, even if I doubt it at times.

She waits for me at night
She waits for me in silence
She gives me all her tenderness
and takes away my pain

And so far she hasn’t run
though I swear she’s had her moments
She still believes in miracles
while others cry in vain

It’s all about soul
It’s all about faith and a deeper devotion
It’s all about soul
‘Cause under the love is a stronger emotion
She’s got to be strong
‘Cause so many things getting out of control
Should drive her away, so why does she stay?
It’s all about soul

She turns to me sometimes
and she asks me what I’m dreaming
And I realize I must have gone a million miles away
And I ask her how she knew to reach out for me at that moment
And she smiles because it’s understood there are no words to say

It’s all about soul
It’s all about knowing what someone is feeling
The woman’s got soul
The power of love and the power of healing
This life isn’t fair
It’s gonna get dark, it’s gonna get cold
You’ve got to get tough, but that ain’t enough
It’s all about soul

It meant so much to be acknowledged like this. It definitely was from the heart as he came over sniffling after the song ended. He felt and meant what the song was saying. My staying aligned makes a difference to all of us. Definitely something I am going to focus on even more in the coming year. 🙂