Discovering My Peace

Peace, to me, means a place where I can feel the calm a midst the raging seas. The place within me that is filled with love without a drop of worry about anything or for anyone. A feeling that everything is exactly as it should be and that everything will be okay, even if I can’t see how that will happen.

I’ve been dabbling, inconsistently, with various ways to find my peace over several years. For me, it takes a lot of intentional practice to be in a steady state of peace. Once I reach a comfortable level of peace, I relax my practice and don’t notice the slow slide back down to dis-ease until it feels dramatically bad.

As I am getting older, my patience with this process is waning dramatically. I want peace in my life NOW and want it to stay. The one thing I have learned so far, on this journey, is that my peace has to come from within me. I can’t want outside circumstances to conform to my definition of what peace is. Well, I can want that, but trying to change what or how anyone else is, is a recipe for failure on my peace front. I need to allow my peace, no matter what is going on around me. It can be done. I’ve done it before. And I will do it again.

Meditation, exercise, eft and being outside in nature help me into to a peaceful place. I just need to get more into a habit of doing these things. The month of December, I am really going to make the effort with the meditation and the exercise. I tap (EFT) when I remember and it does make a pretty immediate difference in my level of agitation. I may try nature too, depending on how nice winter is here this year. Me and cold don’t get along very well. 🙂

This is all a journey. I know that it may take a while to cultivate a consistent peaceful mentality. I also know that life will challenge me on a regular basis. It is my ability to return to my peaceful loving understanding of the bigger picture that I am eagerly looking forward to.

What Would You Tell Your 20 Year Old Self?

 

I recently read a post, “What Would You Say To Your 20-Year-Old Self?“, that really struck a chord with me.

I thought about where I was in my life, at that time, and my heart literally ached for that young adult version of myself. I lived through some pretty bleak times from when I was 20 to about 28 years old. My dad died and my marriage died. While it felt like the end of the world, I did survive. I did more than survive, with time, I thrived.

So what would I say to my 20 year old self?

1) No matter how hard it feels or bad it looks, it WILL get better. It ALWAYS gets better with time.

2) You WILL be happy. Look for things to be happy about. Focus on what you want instead of all the things you don’t. That will make you feel SO much better.

3) You will come out of it all so much stronger and wiser than you ever thought possible.

4) You are unconditionally loved.

5) Expect miracles and you will get them.

6) Spend as much time as you can outside in nature. You will find a peace that you desperately want there. Listen to the wind, bask in the sunshine, and feel the power of nature all around you.

Believe me, you will make it through. Life is a huge journey, and in the end, it will be all worth it. Without all that you have lived, you wouldn’t be who you turn out to be. And, if I do say so myself, you are pretty darned amazing 🙂

With all the hindsight you have gained through the years, what would YOU tell your 20 y/0 self?