Gratitude for Walking and Remembering – Day 7

Today was a bit of a roller coaster for me. Things going on around me that I could not even remotely control and I was feeling all sorts of lower end emotional scale emotions about it all. I had a bit of rant and a cry about it and then did the only thing I could. I took myself out of the house and went for a walk.

I have, for the last month or so, decided to get my butt moving and up from my computer on a daily basis. Some minor back issues make it slow going at times, but today I was walking at a pretty good speed and I managed over 2 miles (as per my Fitbit and Endomundo tracking – yes, I am a gadget geek 😀 ).

The more I walk, the less I think. Thoughts still come but they seem to flow in and out but nothing really sticks. While I was out there, on of the thoughts that flitted in was the Work of Byron Katie. I remembered the relief that I felt when I had used her Inquiry process regarding a particularly hard topic regarding my son. I can’t remember what exactly the issue was, but I DO remember the feeling of relief I felt when I was going through her process.

I went and downloaded two of her books to my Kindle and really plan to go through them so I can release the battle I am doing with myself over things around me.

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but the attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”

Question Your Thinking, Change The World: Quotations from Byron Katie
by Byron Katie.

I am so ready to stop suffering and I am so grateful that I now have a road map that will help me get there.

Until Tomorrow!

[This is entry 7 of 365 of Operation Gratitude]

Gratitude for Good Food and Wonderful Company – Day 6

Hubby and I got to go out to eat tonight with out the kids. I am so grateful that the kids are old enough to be left alone without worrying if the house will be burned down or an ambulance have to be called. Two young boys can do a load of damage if you aren’t careful 😀 I am very grateful that they have, for the most part, moved beyond the age where such worries are at the forefront of my mind, if I leave them alone in the house.

Hubby and I went to an Italian restaurant and had a nice meal. We were able to talk and enjoy the food, at our own pace. Can I just say, I LOVE the warm bread and the herb and oil dip. Something that good *has* to be good for you, right?? 😀 I am grateful that we had the means to enjoy the meal with no worries. I am grateful for the business, that we own, that is making it’s way though the recession as well as it is. I am grateful for our employees who make our business run as smoothly as it does. I am grateful for the life we are able to live. 🙂

Until Tommorrow!

[This is entry 6 of 365 of Operation Gratitude]

New Year Resolutions – Setting Yourself Up For Success

‘Tis the night for lofty goals and well meant resolutions for a better life. Unfortunately, most people are ill equipt to make these resolutions a reality. Just saying that you will do something, doesn’t make it so. We humans are creatures of well entrenched habits that we easily fall back on without a second thought. We don’t intentionally do it, but unless we have a well thought out, attainable path of attack, we get lost and fall back into the “comfort” of what we do know how to do, even if that habit of behavior isn’t in our best interest.

You can greatly increase your chances of success if you keep the following steps in mind when making your new year resolution.

Pick One Goal

Pick one resolution that you want to accomplish and focus all your effort on making it happen. When you choose too many things, multi-tasking your goals, will create a situation were none will get done in a very effective way. Focus your energy on the steps that will lead you down the path to success. Most people pick the hardest things that need to be changed. Doing that with one goal is hard enough. Add more than one goal and it is a recipe for failure across the board.

Be Specific About Your Goal

  • Losing 20 lbs in three months versus losing weight.
  • Go to the gym 3 times a week versus join a gym.

Specific goals will allow you to figure out what you need to do, on a step by step basis in order to accomplish that goal. It will also allow you to gauge the small success you are having along the way.

Have a Plan

What steps are you going to take in order to make your goal a reality? Your resolution will not miraculously happen just because you say you want it to. You are going to have to change your well entrenched ways to make this change and it will be next to impossible to succeed if you can’t visualize how you are going to from where you are to where you want to be.

Make Mini Goals

Most likely, your resolution will be for something that is a far from where you currently are. Making mini goals will help you realize the successes you are having on a day to day basis. The process of getting to your final destinaiton is a journey of rebuilding your beliefs and behaviors about the issue. If you can see that you are making progress, even in small steps, helps you remain motivated and help you reach your final goal.

Accountability, Accountability, Accountability

If left to your own devices, chances are you will readily fall back into your well trodden pathways. Share your goal with people and ask for their support. If you don’t have people around you that will support you, the internet has an amazing supply of websites that provide community interaction where you can get your day to day encouragement, whether you are trying to lose weight, get out of debt, or stop smoking.

Be Kind To Yourself

This doesn’t mean to be lackadaisical about the steps you know need to be done to get to your end result. This means to understand that you will have setbacks. This quote from Psychology Today really paints a picture about what you are up against when you are trying to change long term behaviors.

Making resolutions work is essentially changing behaviors and in order to do that, you have to change your thinking and “rewire” your brain. Brain scientists such as Antonio Damasio and Joseph LeDoux and psychotherapist Stephen Hayes have discovered, through the use of MRIs, that habitual behavior is created by thinking patterns that create neural pathways and memories, which become the default basis for your behavior when you’re faced with a choice or decision. Trying to change that default thinking by “not trying to do it,” in effect just strengthens it. Change requires creating new neural pathways from new thinking.

Psychology Today – Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

You will be doing a lot of rewiring as you journey from where you currently are to where you want to be. You have built up a lot of beliefs about your capabilities and your worthiness over your life time. You are able and you are worthy. Don’t let that old tired voice in your head convince you that you are a failure when you have a setback. See it for what it is – a temporary sidetrack. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and give yourself a pat on the back as you get back on track. Each moment is a new start for you. Don’t allow your setbacks cloud your ability to move forward. You will get there if you keep moving forward. Little steps forward are still movement towards where you want to be.

Gratitude for Figuring Stuff Out – Day 5

We are most definitely a computer family. Everyone here has their own computer and our boys are extreme gamers. The youngest one spent some of his Christmas money on a game that he really wanted, but, for some reason, he was unable to get it to run. Googling the issue revealed that there were MANY people with the same exact problem.

We had been working on trying to figure it out for a couple of days and even upgraded the computer memory as their machine are a bit old and under powered. Install memory – check. Run game – fail. The game would still not work. Bummer. Boy was not happy at all, but did realize we were trying our hardest to get it sorted out.

I spent the next hour or so googling trying to find a solution. As there were many reports of problems on the web, there were also a plethora of “fixes”, the vast majority of which were epic fails in regards to our issue. Finally, I came upon one that I hadn’t tried. Many steps later, I loaded up the game – AND IT RAN!!

I hopped up and started singing! 😀

The boy is WAY happy now.

As an aside, not related to this, I just wanted to note that, since beginning Operation Gratitude, I am seeing more and more things, through out my day, that I recognize in the moment and am grateful for. 🙂 It is a cool feeling to realize that my overall daily positive feeling has raised.

Until tomorrow!

[This is entry 5 of 365 of Operation Gratitude]